Each of us can define our own success. In order to do so, one can ask oneself the question: How will I know that I have achieved (am achieving) success? For me, success is living a peaceful life, getting rid of stressors, having a good, rewarding job, setting financial goals and achieving them, having healthy relationships with my wife and other people, developing interests (e.g. personal development, Slavic languages).
On a Positive Attitude Towards Oneself (a post inspired by the thought of Jim McManus CSsR)
What happens to you in life is mainly up to you, you can (if you want to) be "the manager" of your life, you can shape it, you can start (or continue) to think in a positive, creative way. You have one life, use it well, think well of yourself, you have the right to do so and it is even your duty.
“From a spiritual perspective, successes and failures are irrelevant to our intrinsic value, …” (Jim McManus CSsR)
"From a spiritual perspective, successes and failures are irrelevant to our intrinsic worth, as is the attitude of others towards us. We are all valuable in God's eyes! Intrinsic value does not flow from what we do or what we have, but from the fact that we exist - from our predisposition to God, not from our position in the world."
A goal discovered or invented?
I was inspired to write this post by sentences from Paweł Milcarek's article "Ta dzisiejsza młodzież" (from the Polish magazine Wychowujmy, no. 6/2022, page 15). Here are a few sentences from that article: "(…) where does the goal come from?
“This transcendent nature is the core of our true value and meaning” (Jim McManus CSsR).
"Esta naturaleza trascendente es el núcleo de nuestro verdadero valor y significado" (Jim McManus CSsR). (This post is in English and Spanish) Let me start with a quote from the book "The Inside Job. A Spirituality of True Self-Esteem". Permítanme empezar con una cita del libro "The Inside Job. A Spirituality of True Self-Esteem". (My … Continue reading “This transcendent nature is the core of our true value and meaning” (Jim McManus CSsR).
A few thoughts on anxieties (from my third book entitled “A Cure for Anxiety”).
"By working on ourselves (with the help of a therapist or on our own) we are able to "work through" our anxieties little by little. Getting rid of them is freeing, rewarding and opens up new possibilities. When we are afraid, we do not dare to live the way we - in fact - want to live. Anxieties limit us, they want to enslave us and often succeed in doing so."
A few thoughts on motivation.
If we are motivated to do something, we feel like it. An example of this is motivation for professional work. If, for example, a freelancer sees that his or her freedom in work and commitment results in a greater sense of purpose and more income, he or she is increasingly motivated.
“A husband who loves his wife will always find time for her.” (Ks. Janusz Lekan)
"A husband who loves his wife will always find time for her. Likewise a mother who loves her children. A friend, in spite of the multiplicity of activities, will always stop by a sick friend."
Emotions and their impact on our lives.
Despite the growing focus on EQ, a globall deficit in understanding and managing emotions remains. Only 36 percent of the people we tested are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen. This means that two thirds of us are typically controlled by our emotions and are not yet skilled at spotting them and using them to our benefit. "
“Meanwhile, how many of us would give much, perhaps even everything, to turn back time…” (Fr Jarosław Grabowski)
Time passes and during our lives we make better or worse choices that have consequences. Time cannot be turned back, we can only live in the here and now. And it is right here and now that our lives are happening. Maybe we made mistakes in the past that we regret, maybe we didn't act with dignity with our values, maybe we were not ok to other people, maybe we were blinded by work, by the money we earned or maybe by jealousy, maybe we didn't work on ourselves, on our character - so many mistakes we could have made and often did.