In his book 'Emotional Intelligence', Daniel Goleman describes a state called 'flow'. It is a state in which we are fully focused on an action, on a task, and even sometimes have no sense of time passing. Nel suo libro "Intelligenza emotiva", Daniel Goleman descrive uno stato chiamato "flusso". Si tratta di uno stato in … Continue reading “The flow” and its benefits.
A few sentences from ‘Emotional Intelligence’ (Daniel Goleman) and my commentary on them.
Who among us would not want to be among those characterised by emotional self-control? Emotions are necessary, they are there to serve us, but - attention - we must not allow them to work against us. And this is why it is so important to REACT in an appropriate manner to the emotions that arise within us. They can be positive or negative.
“A change of perspective allows us to separate the culprit from his fault” (on forgiveness, inspired by Jim McManus CSsR)
Man is by nature sinful, prone to sin. The evil we do will always remain evil. However, the sinner should not be condemned because he can repent.
What is the real meaning of success?
Each of us can define our own success. In order to do so, one can ask oneself the question: How will I know that I have achieved (am achieving) success? For me, success is living a peaceful life, getting rid of stressors, having a good, rewarding job, setting financial goals and achieving them, having healthy relationships with my wife and other people, developing interests (e.g. personal development, Slavic languages).
On a Positive Attitude Towards Oneself (a post inspired by the thought of Jim McManus CSsR)
What happens to you in life is mainly up to you, you can (if you want to) be "the manager" of your life, you can shape it, you can start (or continue) to think in a positive, creative way. You have one life, use it well, think well of yourself, you have the right to do so and it is even your duty.
On good and bad thoughts
SsR: "It is also important to remember two important things: we reject bad thoughts, not ourselves, and: we are not identical with our thoughts - neither good nor bad".
“(…) Everyone Is Valuable and Worthy of Respect Regardless of…”(Jim McManus CSsR)
"And everyone is valuable and worthy of respect regardless of the wealth of their bank account, their grades in exams, their life record in sprinting, the opinions of those around them. Why is this so difficult for us to accept?"
“From a spiritual perspective, successes and failures are irrelevant to our intrinsic value, …” (Jim McManus CSsR)
"From a spiritual perspective, successes and failures are irrelevant to our intrinsic worth, as is the attitude of others towards us. We are all valuable in God's eyes! Intrinsic value does not flow from what we do or what we have, but from the fact that we exist - from our predisposition to God, not from our position in the world."
A goal discovered or invented?
I was inspired to write this post by sentences from Paweł Milcarek's article "Ta dzisiejsza młodzież" (from the Polish magazine Wychowujmy, no. 6/2022, page 15). Here are a few sentences from that article: "(…) where does the goal come from?
A few thoughts on anxieties (from my third book entitled “A Cure for Anxiety”).
"By working on ourselves (with the help of a therapist or on our own) we are able to "work through" our anxieties little by little. Getting rid of them is freeing, rewarding and opens up new possibilities. When we are afraid, we do not dare to live the way we - in fact - want to live. Anxieties limit us, they want to enslave us and often succeed in doing so."
A few thoughts on motivation.
If we are motivated to do something, we feel like it. An example of this is motivation for professional work. If, for example, a freelancer sees that his or her freedom in work and commitment results in a greater sense of purpose and more income, he or she is increasingly motivated.
A few excerpts from my third book “A Cure for Anxiety”
Introduction. What will you learn from this book? This book is divided into four chapters, each of which deals with a separate aspect of anxiety, worry and fear. In chapter one, I outline what anxiety, worry and fear are (among other things, I give their definitions). In chapter two, I describe the negative sides of living with anxieties. In chapter three, I give reasons for getting rid of most (or all) anxieties. In chapter four, I introduce ideas related to anxieties and describe how to do practical exercises to 'work through' anxieties in order to deal with them effectively."
Commentary on a few sentences by Fr Jaroslaw Grabowski (spiritual developmet issues)
Fr Jarosław Grabowski writes: "Of course, there are different categories of religiously indifferent people. (…) The largest group, however, are - as pastors and catechists will confirm - those who baptise their children, lead them to First Holy Communion, get married in church, bury their dead in the Catholic way and show up at the temple for Pasterka (...)"
“A cure for anxiety”: some excerpts from my 3rd book
"In this section of the book, I want to share what I fear, what my fears are. I fear (November 2022) only two things (situations or events): I fear the justice of God (who, after my death, will judge my thoughts, words and deeds committed during my earthly life) and the sudden death of my beloved wife. Other than that, I am not afraid of anything or anyone. You may wonder: "How is this possible?"
True development is when…
In my opinion, true personal development is experienced by anyone who...
“A husband who loves his wife will always find time for her.” (Ks. Janusz Lekan)
"A husband who loves his wife will always find time for her. Likewise a mother who loves her children. A friend, in spite of the multiplicity of activities, will always stop by a sick friend."
What is emotional intelligence?
Some of the signs of emotional intelligence are: the ability to recognise and describe what people are feeling, awareness of personal strengths and limitations, self-confidence and self-acceptance.
Emotions and their impact on our lives.
Despite the growing focus on EQ, a globall deficit in understanding and managing emotions remains. Only 36 percent of the people we tested are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen. This means that two thirds of us are typically controlled by our emotions and are not yet skilled at spotting them and using them to our benefit. "
What does Pawel Tkaczyk write about the company blog?
"Blog readers are still the elite. But a very influential elite. Studies show that these people are often opinion leaders. If you want your message to break through to the general consciousness, it makes sense to start by convincing blog readers specifically." P. Tkaczyk also writes that blogs are a great marketing tool, but require a lot of work and expertise."
“Meanwhile, how many of us would give much, perhaps even everything, to turn back time…” (Fr Jarosław Grabowski)
Time passes and during our lives we make better or worse choices that have consequences. Time cannot be turned back, we can only live in the here and now. And it is right here and now that our lives are happening. Maybe we made mistakes in the past that we regret, maybe we didn't act with dignity with our values, maybe we were not ok to other people, maybe we were blinded by work, by the money we earned or maybe by jealousy, maybe we didn't work on ourselves, on our character - so many mistakes we could have made and often did.
What is really important in life?
In this post I will write what I think is important, it will be my personal reflection.
Step by step, year by year…. small changes can bring big results.
Passo dopo passo, anno dopo anno…. piccoli cambiamenti possono portare grandi risultati. (This post is in English and Italian). You don't have to make big changes in your life right away. Step by step make changes, make your life more peaceful, work on your character. Year after year, become more patient, more humble, more wise, … Continue reading Step by step, year by year…. small changes can bring big results.
What do you celebrate on 25 December?
Christmas is one of the biggest feasts. I am a Catholic and on this day I celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. God the Father sent His Son to earth so that Jesus Christ - the second Person of the Trinity - would save people. Jesus on earth did the will of His Father and died on the cross giving us salvation; Jesus reconciled us with God the Father.
What is psychology and why is it an important area of study?
I have just started reading Abraham P. Sperling's book "Psychology". I consider it as one of the most important books in my life. It contains a glossary in which the term 'psychology' is defined. Psychology is the science of individual behaviour and experience. It is useful to know why we behave in a certain way.
The most important things in life.
What are the most important things in life? In my opinion, these are: having a clear conscience, feeling and being sure that you are an honest person, and it is also important to be honest, to have a passion for life, to enjoy everyday life, not to compete with others but with yourself. Faith, hope and love are very important, too. Sense of happiness is also important.
Spiritual development: we are not just a body, we have a soul and a spirit.
A human being is not just a body, I believe strongly in the teachings of the Catholic Church, I am a Catholic. I believe in having a body, spirit and soul. My soul is immortal, after earthly life there is eternal life, which God wants to give to His children. God is merciful, we will soon celebrate Christmas, the commemoration of the sending of Jesus Christ to earth.
Some excerpts from my third book entitled “A cure for anxiety. How to work through anxiety and start living peacefully?”
In chapter one, I outline what anxiety, worry and fear are (among other things, I give their definitions). In chapter two, I describe the negative sides of living with anxieties and fears. In chapter three, I give reasons for getting rid of most (or all) fears. In chapter four, I introduce ideas related to fears and describe how to do practical exercises to 'work through' fears in order to deal with them effectively
A few paragraphs on anxiety (from my third book).
As a consequence of human fears, we can observe the following negative attitudes.
“Rejoice always in the Lord; once again I repeat: rejoice!” (Phil 4:4)
We are children of God, let us rejoice always and rejoice in the Lord. It is HE who created us, who called us to life, who gave us talents, who gives us daily bread.
Development areas: some thoughts on the subject.
Personal development is rewarding; we do not stand still when we develop. Development can (and should) be in different areas of life. For me, it is important to develop spiritually, intellectually, professionally, emotionally, in the area of financial education.
Di cosa abbiamo paura? Alcune riflessioni sulla paura e sull’ansia.
In today's post, I want to share some thoughts that are contained in my third book titled "A Cure for Anxiety."
Some thoughts from Regina Wong’s book and my commentary.
"It is only up to you to define success and achieve it. ", and also: "We quickly realise that you have to pay dearly for these outward signs of success".
“In my interior life I look with one eye into the abyss of my misery and wickedness, which I am, and with the other eye I look into the abyss of Your mercy, O God.”(Saint M. Faustina Kowalska)
We are weak and prone to sin, we fall all the time, but we must not give in to sadness and discouragement. God is greater than our sin and our weakness, let us ask Him for His power and His mercy on us. The Lord God gives us power when we ask for it, and in the Holy Sacraments there is our help from God. Through the sacrament of penance we can be reconciled to Him and reconciled to the Church.
“A cure for anxiety. How to get rid of anxiety and start living peacefully?” (this is the title of my 3rd book)
I am currently writing my third book. Today I will share excerpts from it (the book isn't finished yet).
My third book – part of the foreword.
I fear the justice of God, who after my death will judge my thoughts, words and deeds committed during my earthly life, and the sudden death of my beloved wife. Other than that, I am not afraid of anything or anyone. You may wonder: "How is this possible? After all, a so-called normal person is afraid of many things, e.g. losing a job, betrayal by a spouse, contracting a serious illness, war, etc."
How do you build brand excellence?
Just this month, I am reading a book by Paweł Tkaczyk entitled 'Zakamarki marki' (published in Polish by Helion SA). The book is full of valuable content on branding, image building, etc. The subtitle encourages you to read it, it reads: "Things you might not have known, forgotten or overlooked when building your brand" (translation from Polish). In chapter one of the book, Pawel Tkaczyk answers the question that is the title of this post.
My ebooks and my paperback on Amazon.
If you read my blog from time to time or on a regular basis then you can support my work and buy one of my books, the links to which I provide below. The content of these books could be the start of the changes you will make in your life. Give yourself a chance, dare to live, it's your life.
Three types of emotional regulation systems (according to Gilbert and Choden, 2019)
"Recent neuroscience research indicates that there are at least three types of emotional regulation systems (areas of the brain that work together to control and maintain our emotions). These systems help us to achieve our basic goals in life.
Some excerpts from my book “Dare to Create the Life You Want”
I believe that personal development is very important as it allows for a more interesting, fuller and happier life. Personal growth gives satisfaction. Just as a tree keeps growing, you can keep growing. By developing you will realise your dreams, you will create action plans, revise those plans if necessary, evaluate your development, you will reflect on which areas of growth you care most about.
Why should you read Mary Welford’s book ‘The Compassionate Mind Approach to Building Self-Confidence’?
"We live in a world that constantly urges us to judge, classify and evaluate ourselves. We get messages from everywhere that we may not be good enough." In my opinion, the modern world wants to make us believe that only achievements, titles, certificates, exams, careers, big money, etc. count. We often succumb to this world and its delusions.
Solve people’s problems – this could be your way to success.
People have all sorts of problems. One way to make money is to help people solve them. You can give people what they need. For example, you can create an innovative course to learn a foreign language, you can write a novel that interests them. What I'm writing now is not just about problems, it's about human needs.
Take matters into your own hands, be proactive!
What your current life looks like depends mainly on you. External factors can be (and often are) beyond your control, but you should take responsibility for your life, for what it looks like.
The Fearful Future? (comments on the book “Mindfulness Plain and Simple. A Practical Guide to Inner Peace” by Oli Doyle).
"Fear of the future is seen as normal and natural part of being human, but if we pay close attention, we can see some scary, painful thoughts at the root of that fear. Without these stories, there is no fear, but if you believe those stories, you will scare yourself stiff!"
A few thoughts related to a quote from Brian Tracy’s book ‘The Power of Self Confidence’.
"It's not that people don't know what to do; they are usually just afraid to do what their heart tells them to do. However, by building courage within yourself, step by step, you will gradually overcome your fears. With courage, you will open up to the whole world. Your self-confidence will grow. You will reach a point where there are no longer any limits to what you are trying to achieve and what you are involved in."
“Achieving personal greatness” (Brian Tracy) and co-operating with God’s grace.
Today I will address two topics: achieving personal greatness and working with God's grace to achieve spectacular goals. We were created for great things, yet many of us, over time, lock ourselves into our so-called comfort zone and accept life as it is, no longer dreaming of growing and achieving something great for ourselves and the world around us.
You can buy my second book “Dare to Create the Life You Want” at ridero.eu/pl.
My second book is now available. It is a personal development guide and contains 4 chapters, a glossary of terms, some practical exercises. I share in the foreword my personal experience of personal development, I give examples of the changes I have made in my life between 2010 and 2022.
How can we use stress to our advantage? Can stress give us something good?
"We know many stories where people, as a result of stressful events, undertake extremely creative activities that become the meaning of their lives." Let me make a personal comment on this quote. Sometimes, indeed, stressful situations require the use of the mind in a creative way, the situation "forces you to invent new things", someone, for example, loses their job and starts thinking about the product or service they want to sell.
“Two men came to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector” (Gospel according to St Luke, chapter 18).
The Pharisee came to boast before God what a good man he was, the tax collector beat his breast and asked God for mercy. Which attitude should we imitate?
“DARE TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT”(a few excerpts from my second ebook)
The subtitle of my book is: MAKE USE OF THE EXPERIENCES OF YOUR PAST, IMAGINE YOUR FUTURE AND FOLLOW THE PATH TO YOUR DREAM LIFESTYLE. Podtytuł mojej książki to: WYKORZYSTAJ DOŚWIADCZENIA ZE SWOJEJ PRZESZŁOŚCI, WYOBRAŹ SOBIE SWOJĄ PRZYSZŁOŚĆ I PODĄŻAJ DROGĄ DO WYMARZONEGO STYLU ŻYCIA. Here are a few excerpts from my ebook
My ebook and paperback “Dare to Create the Life You Want” is available on the Internet.
My ebook and paperbook "Dare to Create the Life You Want" is available on ridero.eu. From 5 October 2022 you can buy my book on ridero.eu.
Optimism and emotional intelligence
It’s worth being optimistic, looking to the future with hope. This post is inspired by a quote from Daniel Goleman’s book ‘Emotional Intelligence’. I will quote a short extract from page 160 of my copy (translated from Polish): “”Optimism, like hope, implies a strong expectation that, despite failures and setbacks, everything will turn out – … Continue reading Optimism and emotional intelligence
“Our society is what we make it” (M. and R. Friedman).
"La nostra società è ciò che noi facciamo" (M. e R. Friedman). I started reading a book by M. and R. Friedman entitled "Free to choose. A Personal Statement". I am reading it in Polish (my native language). I want to share a thought expressed in these sentences, it's a quotation from page 49 of … Continue reading “Our society is what we make it” (M. and R. Friedman).
DARE TO LIVE 